Comments on: When to say when… http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/ Its not about the hair... Thu, 09 Feb 2012 18:37:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: A Good Friend http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-2/#comment-19852 A Good Friend Wed, 31 Oct 2007 11:16:04 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19852 Heather - just a quick comment on Jacqueline's post. She has it so right! I am so confused as to why Anonymouse or anyone, Christian or not, would ask you to question your faith at a time when you are so obviously in need of it. Anonymous can question your faith but then when others question his/her motive or intent they are then called to task. Like Jacqueline I do not have the faith and belief that you have but I work for it all the time. I am so glad that you have your faith, friends and family to see through the challenges you face and I am glad that CHOSSE to share with us when you do and I am also glad that you are tkaing care of yourself and healing. I know that you pray for all of the "anonymous" in the real world and cyberspace. I simply say they should get a life and if they need help in thier search for faith they should seek out guidance and understanding rather than question others faith. Continue to focus on oyur health and your journey and wirte when you can. Heather – just a quick comment on Jacqueline’s post. She has it so right! I am so confused as to why Anonymouse or anyone, Christian or not, would ask you to question your faith at a time when you are so obviously in need of it. Anonymous can question your faith but then when others question his/her motive or intent they are then called to task. Like Jacqueline I do not have the faith and belief that you have but I work for it all the time. I am so glad that you have your faith, friends and family to see through the challenges you face and I am glad that CHOSSE to share with us when you do and I am also glad that you are tkaing care of yourself and healing. I know that you pray for all of the “anonymous” in the real world and cyberspace. I simply say they should get a life and if they need help in thier search for faith they should seek out guidance and understanding rather than question others faith. Continue to focus on oyur health and your journey and wirte when you can.

]]> By: Jacqueline http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-2/#comment-19841 Jacqueline Tue, 30 Oct 2007 16:20:28 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19841 I stopped by here today to see how Heather is doing. I am often lifted by her strength and raw honesty towards both her cancer and her religious faith. I was mystified by some of the deliberate and strategically placed ignorance in such a graceful arena. "I’m not trying to start a fire here". What? Just light the match? No, no I don't think it is unfortunate that people got a little defensive or "nasty". Sometimes "idot" is simply the perfect word. (from WIKIPEDIA: "Idiot" was originally created to refer to "layman, person lacking professional skill", "person so mentally deficient as to be incapable of ordinary reasoning".[6][7] Declining to take part in public life, such as democratic government of the polis (city state), such as the Athenian democracy, was considered dishonorable. "Idiots" were seen as having bad judgment in public and political matters. Over time, the term "idiot" shifted away from its original connotation of selfishness and came to refer to individuals with overall bad judgment–individuals who are "stupid". In modern English usage, the terms "idiot" and "idiocy" describe an extreme folly or stupidity, its symptoms (foolish or stupid utterance or deed"). Funny, I'm not a Christian either and I didn't clump myself in with the "idiots"- I do believe there are idiots out there attempting to find and embrace their daily power through negativity and passive assault, a sign of personal insecurities. This would include the person who left the comment that is the topic of discussion. It doesn't take Einstein to understand the tone and implication of the ANONYMOUS comment. It is a far reach to think/believe "rather try to understand her faith - asking questions about how she can be so understanding and accepting in the way she is... That doesn’t mean Anonymous was being judgmental in anyway, just curious" Please don't insult the rest of us. There is nothing subtle about the comment- it is purely antagonistic. One who is compassionate, thoughtful and has even an ounce of intellectual capacity would not come to Heather's blog and decide this is the place to encourage religious evaluation. Faith and hope comes in many packages and we all adopt some system of faith to get us through life. Heather, while my methods and sources for hope and faith are different, every time I come here you inspire me to reach deep into the tool kit and utilize wisdom by LIVING it and not simply "preaching" it... to be hopeful, honest, compassionate and kind. Like I said earlier I am not a Christian but was raised going to Sunday School at a Reformed Christian church and later while in high school I attended a Baptist church that a woman I was baby-sitting for invited me to (because there were cute boys attending the Youth Group). Unlike most people who walk away from organized religion I have no bitter feelings or animosity towards my experiences and do not put myself on an intellectual "high horse" and talk down on any religion. My religious and intellectual understanding of the world and/or the "meaning of life" is an ongoing process- one that I will never completely or fully define- and that is simply ok with me. When I decided to take a moment to come to your blog this morning with my cup of coffee I was first impressed with your new design. Instantly (before I saw the topics) I knew what I was gong to post here since you had placed a tree in your design. After writing the above words I wondered if I should still post this link- but I have decided that it's actually quite perfect... I think you'll appreciate these stories. http://www.flickr.com/photos/rebel1in8/166131418/in/photostream/ (click on "it just makes sense...") and then there's this story... http://www.flickr.com/photos/rebel1in8/26311084/ xo, Heather. Have a beautiful day EVERYONE! and keep on keepin' on. I stopped by here today to see how Heather is doing. I am often lifted by her strength and raw honesty towards both her cancer and her religious faith. I was mystified by some of the deliberate and strategically placed ignorance in such a graceful arena.

“I’m not trying to start a fire here”. What? Just light the match? No, no I don’t think it is unfortunate that people got a little defensive or “nasty”. Sometimes “idot” is simply the perfect word. (from WIKIPEDIA: “Idiot” was originally created to refer to “layman, person lacking professional skill”, “person so mentally deficient as to be incapable of ordinary reasoning”.[6][7] Declining to take part in public life, such as democratic government of the polis (city state), such as the Athenian democracy, was considered dishonorable. “Idiots” were seen as having bad judgment in public and political matters. Over time, the term “idiot” shifted away from its original connotation of selfishness and came to refer to individuals with overall bad judgment–individuals who are “stupid”. In modern English usage, the terms “idiot” and “idiocy” describe an extreme folly or stupidity, its symptoms (foolish or stupid utterance or deed”).

Funny, I’m not a Christian either and I didn’t clump myself in with the “idiots”- I do believe there are idiots out there attempting to find and embrace their daily power through negativity and passive assault, a sign of personal insecurities. This would include the person who left the comment that is the topic of discussion. It doesn’t take Einstein to understand the tone and implication of the ANONYMOUS comment. It is a far reach to think/believe “rather try to understand her faith – asking questions about how she can be so understanding and accepting in the way she is… That doesn’t mean Anonymous was being judgmental in anyway, just curious” Please don’t insult the rest of us. There is nothing subtle about the comment- it is purely antagonistic. One who is compassionate, thoughtful and has even an ounce of intellectual capacity would not come to Heather’s blog and decide this is the place to encourage religious evaluation. Faith and hope comes in many packages and we all adopt some system of faith to get us through life.

Heather, while my methods and sources for hope and faith are different, every time I come here you inspire me to reach deep into the tool kit and utilize wisdom by LIVING it and not simply “preaching” it… to be hopeful, honest, compassionate and kind. Like I said earlier I am not a Christian but was raised going to Sunday School at a Reformed Christian church and later while in high school I attended a Baptist church that a woman I was baby-sitting for invited me to (because there were cute boys attending the Youth Group). Unlike most people who walk away from organized religion I have no bitter feelings or animosity towards my experiences and do not put myself on an intellectual “high horse” and talk down on any religion. My religious and intellectual understanding of the world and/or the “meaning of life” is an ongoing process- one that I will never completely or fully define- and that is simply ok with me. When I decided to take a moment to come to your blog this morning with my cup of coffee I was first impressed with your new design. Instantly (before I saw the topics) I knew what I was gong to post here since you had placed a tree in your design. After writing the above words I wondered if I should still post this link- but I have decided that it’s actually quite perfect… I think you’ll appreciate these stories.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/rebel1in8/166131418/in/photostream/
(click on “it just makes sense…”)

and then there’s this story…
http://www.flickr.com/photos/rebel1in8/26311084/

xo, Heather. Have a beautiful day EVERYONE! and keep on keepin’ on.

]]> By: LongTimeLurker http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-2/#comment-19727 LongTimeLurker Fri, 26 Oct 2007 02:45:28 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19727 "Don’t let the idiots get you down. Some people get kicks from writing outrageous things. Just hit delete and don’t let it in. Consider the source and move on." I'm not trying to start a fire here, but this kind of comment is exactly why I'm sure Anonymous took many of these comments with a grain of salt like many of you did his/her comments. Anonymous wasn't trying to make Heather question her faith, but rather try to understand her faith - asking questions about how she can be so understanding and accepting in the way she is. I won't hide the fact that I'm not a Christian, but I was for nearly 20 years, so I know all the "right" answers. But - now that I'm "an idiot" (as so eloquently stated above) I can also understand why someone might ask Heather how she can trust so completely in God the way she does. That doesn't mean Anonymous was being judgmental in anyway, just curious. But unfortunately, he/she certainly got some nasty feedback from people on here. That's really unfortunate, don't you think? “Don’t let the idiots get you down. Some people get kicks from writing outrageous things. Just hit delete and don’t let it in. Consider the source and move on.”

I’m not trying to start a fire here, but this kind of comment is exactly why I’m sure Anonymous took many of these comments with a grain of salt like many of you did his/her comments.

Anonymous wasn’t trying to make Heather question her faith, but rather try to understand her faith – asking questions about how she can be so understanding and accepting in the way she is. I won’t hide the fact that I’m not a Christian, but I was for nearly 20 years, so I know all the “right” answers. But – now that I’m “an idiot” (as so eloquently stated above) I can also understand why someone might ask Heather how she can trust so completely in God the way she does. That doesn’t mean Anonymous was being judgmental in anyway, just curious. But unfortunately, he/she certainly got some nasty feedback from people on here.

That’s really unfortunate, don’t you think?

]]> By: A Good Friend http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-2/#comment-19711 A Good Friend Thu, 25 Oct 2007 15:01:36 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19711 Heather - I attempted to comment at A Place For Ministry Wives but I was unable to post so I was hoping that she might read my comment here. I find her post at http://aplaceforme2.blogspot.com/2007/10/how-i-will-choose-to-blog.html to be so on point! As you know I do not blog but there a very few blogs I read and yours is my favorite. I often wonder if bloggers would say the things face to face that they write on blogs, either their own or commenting on others. I practice and encourage others to never blog or post anything they would not say to someone sitting at their kitchen table. I do believe it is the work of "evil" when a person or group of people blog and/or post mean and painful things about others they have never known, met or even have internet communication with. It is beyond my understanding how, what I am sure are otherwise good, kind and caring people believe the words of another who they probably also only know from the internet to the point they criticize, make mean comments, even make threats, draw conclusions without hearing the other side and at times make no effort to even look for the truth. I wonder if they think about the pain they have caused a person whom they do not know. Proof that this is "evil" is how quickly it ignites and draws so many people in and the hurt and damage continues. I already said I am not a blogger but if I were I would make certain I blogged in the same manner and character that I communicate and interact in the "real" world. It saddens me deeply when I hear horror stories of how people have been hurt and at times harmed by the words of others - words by people who decided to make judgements and attack others without apparently stopping to think what they are doing. I am then lifted by your blog and the way you seek to help others through your own faith and difficult times! Then when I read the post at A Place For Ministry Wives I am led to believe that the "good" does outweigh the "evil". Thank you and all the other bloggers who remain kind and caring rather than judgemental! Thank you for showing me the good side of blogging. Heather – I attempted to comment at A Place For Ministry Wives but I was unable to post so I was hoping that she might read my comment here. I find her post at http://aplaceforme2.blogspot.com/2007/10/how-i-will-choose-to-blog.html to be so on point! As you know I do not blog but there a very few blogs I read and yours is my favorite.

I often wonder if bloggers would say the things face to face that they write on blogs, either their own or commenting on others. I practice and encourage others to never blog or post anything they would not say to someone sitting at their kitchen table. I do believe it is the work of “evil” when a person or group of people blog and/or post mean and painful things about others they have never known, met or even have internet communication with. It is beyond my understanding how, what I am sure are otherwise good, kind and caring people believe the words of another who they probably also only know from the internet to the point they criticize, make mean comments, even make threats, draw conclusions without hearing the other side and at times make no effort to even look for the truth. I wonder if they think about the pain they have caused a person whom they do not know. Proof that this is “evil” is how quickly it ignites and draws so many people in and the hurt and damage continues.

I already said I am not a blogger but if I were I would make certain I blogged in the same manner and character that I communicate and interact in the “real” world. It saddens me deeply when I hear horror stories of how people have been hurt and at times harmed by the words of others – words by people who decided to make judgements and attack others without apparently stopping to think what they are doing.

I am then lifted by your blog and the way you seek to help others through your own faith and difficult times! Then when I read the post at
A Place For Ministry Wives I am led to believe that the “good” does outweigh the “evil”. Thank you and all the other bloggers who remain kind and caring rather than judgemental! Thank you for showing me the good side of blogging.

]]> By: Melinda http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-2/#comment-19661 Melinda Wed, 24 Oct 2007 16:08:17 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19661 Hi Heather, I haven't been here in awhile. I've seen just enough to know you are doing okay. I think the reason you've been visited by "Anonymous" is not to bring you down, but for you to remember your hope. To renew your strength and resolve. I know you are tired. Hang in there, Heather. You have a great reward. Hugs, Melinda Hi Heather,

I haven’t been here in awhile. I’ve seen just enough to know you are doing okay.

I think the reason you’ve been visited by “Anonymous” is not to bring you down, but for you to remember your hope. To renew your strength and resolve.

I know you are tired. Hang in there, Heather. You have a great reward.

Hugs,
Melinda

]]> By: Lesley http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19636 Lesley Tue, 23 Oct 2007 18:55:46 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19636 Heather~~ Your blog attracts a lot of people from many walks of life. I know it is frustrating to think that someone is trying to shake your faith, but in reality the person may be seeking answers to their own questions. Those of us that are saved know the Lord on a personal basis, it is hard for those that do not know Him to understand the depth of our relationshiop with Him. It is hard for the unsaved to understand how we can possibly know the God of the universe. It is also hard for them to fathom how there is only one way to Him. The Bible talks about how the eyes of the unsaved are shut to godly ways and they are not open until they are saved. I know it may sound harsh to the unsaved, but it makes perfect sense. How can anyone outside Christ really get to know Him? I would take anons post and any others like it to the throne of grace. The Lord might be drawing them unto Himself and using your blog as well as those that comment for His higher purpose. Our prayers and thoughts are with you on a daily basis. :0) Heather~~ Your blog attracts a lot of people from many walks of life. I know it is frustrating to think that someone is trying to shake your faith, but in reality the person may be seeking answers to their own questions. Those of us that are saved know the Lord on a personal basis, it is hard for those that do not know Him to understand the depth of our relationshiop with Him. It is hard for the unsaved to understand how we can possibly know the God of the universe. It is also hard for them to fathom how there is only one way to Him. The Bible talks about how the eyes of the unsaved are shut to godly ways and they are not open until they are saved. I know it may sound harsh to the unsaved, but it makes perfect sense. How can anyone outside Christ really get to know Him? I would take anons post and any others like it to the throne of grace. The Lord might be drawing them unto Himself and using your blog as well as those that comment for His higher purpose.
Our prayers and thoughts are with you on a daily basis. :0)

]]> By: Cheryl...from the belly of the whale http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19626 Cheryl...from the belly of the whale Tue, 23 Oct 2007 16:55:11 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19626 ...especially Heather... I often reminded of your post about the title you chose for your blog. Anonymous is lingering near the light - and I am guessing they are seeing their questions about God, in you... you asked to be used and He is using you. In eternal ways, in lives of so many - more than you could ever ask or imagine. You might feel tired, dear Heather, and if I could take the difficult away, I would in a heartbeat - but God knows... and I suspect He has drawn this person to a place hope abounds. I guess their questions are ones Christ hears everyday. Not pleasant for sure... I am praying for you... we are all holding you up... we love you though we will never likely meet this side of Heaven... and I love how you love anonymous too, despite the uncomfortable questions and hurt - because HE loves anonymous - indeed even knows their name. Blessings and rest today... …especially Heather… I often reminded of your post about the title you chose for your blog.

Anonymous is lingering near the light – and I am guessing they are seeing their questions about God, in you… you asked to be used and He is using you. In eternal ways, in lives of so many – more than you could ever ask or imagine. You might feel tired, dear Heather, and if I could take the difficult away, I would in a heartbeat – but God knows… and I suspect He has drawn this person to a place hope abounds.

I guess their questions are ones Christ hears everyday. Not pleasant for sure…

I am praying for you… we are all holding you up… we love you though we will never likely meet this side of Heaven… and I love how you love anonymous too, despite the uncomfortable questions and hurt – because HE loves anonymous – indeed even knows their name.

Blessings and rest today…

]]> By: Darla Lair http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19625 Darla Lair Tue, 23 Oct 2007 16:41:58 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19625 Heather I never get time to read others comments I just check in to see how you are doing so I know how to pray for you. I just read what you wrote about anyonmous and Heather all I can say is don't even bother to comment to that person. What I will do is start praying for that person's salvation because obviously they are not a believer and have no clue about the grace of God. Keep on serving the Lord as you so beautifully are. Heather
I never get time to read others comments I just check in to see how you are doing so I know how to pray for you. I just read what you wrote about anyonmous and Heather all I can say is don’t even bother to comment to that person. What I will do is start praying for that person’s salvation because obviously they are not a believer and have no clue about the grace of God. Keep on serving the Lord as you so beautifully are.

]]> By: Stephanie http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19622 Stephanie Tue, 23 Oct 2007 16:36:08 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19622 I think Anonymous feels the need to try and poke holes in your faith because if he/she can cause doubt and chaos in your life, he/she can ignore (for a while) the emptiness in his/her own life. It must be lonely there. I think Anonymous feels the need to try and poke holes in your faith because if he/she can cause doubt and chaos in your life, he/she can ignore (for a while) the emptiness in his/her own life. It must be lonely there.

]]> By: LeeJo http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19610 LeeJo Tue, 23 Oct 2007 13:50:23 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19610 Sing it sister! Sing it sister!

]]> By: Sandi Walker http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19607 Sandi Walker Tue, 23 Oct 2007 13:44:44 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19607 I am overwhelmed by your generous spirit to give more time to help others. I have been reading your blog for a while and you are amazing. The Lord has used you to bless my little life back here in Texas. Praying for you and your famiy. Sandi I am overwhelmed by your generous spirit to give more time to help others. I have been reading your blog for a while and you are amazing. The Lord has used you to bless my little life back here in Texas. Praying for you and your famiy. Sandi

]]> By: A Place For Ministry Wives http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19596 A Place For Ministry Wives Tue, 23 Oct 2007 08:09:21 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19596 Heather- I have been away from your blog recently and just returned to see all of this. I am so sorry for the discouraging comment. If you get a chance, read this post of mine... http://aplaceforme2.blogspot.com/2007/10/how-i-will-choose-to-blog.html Satan uses all things...EVEN BLOGGING...to discourage us! Don't let it stop you from sharing your heart here! Heather-

I have been away from your blog recently and just returned to see all of this. I am so sorry for the discouraging comment. If you get a chance, read this post of mine…

http://aplaceforme2.blogspot.com/2007/10/how-i-will-choose-to-blog.html

Satan uses all things…EVEN BLOGGING…to discourage us! Don’t let it stop you from sharing your heart here!

]]> By: April D. http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19582 April D. Mon, 22 Oct 2007 22:04:51 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19582 You handled this so eloquently...and yes, there is a time when you just have to say when. Even if you DID have the energy and time to invest in an online debate of your faith with someone who cannot even identify themselves, I do not believe that is what God would choose you to do. Our God is not a God of strife or confusion. He is a God of peace. And forgiveness. And love. Not despite illness like cancer. But in spite of things such as cancer. Well done, Heather. Well done. You handled this so eloquently…and yes, there is a time when you just have to say when. Even if you DID have the energy and time to invest in an online debate of your faith with someone who cannot even identify themselves, I do not believe that is what God would choose you to do. Our God is not a God of strife or confusion. He is a God of peace. And forgiveness. And love. Not despite illness like cancer. But in spite of things such as cancer.

Well done, Heather. Well done.

]]> By: Tammy http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19578 Tammy Mon, 22 Oct 2007 21:33:28 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19578 All I can say is you are doing the right thing in speaking the truth when it seems right, when the words come and focusing answers directly on the Word of God. The rest of the time, let your life speak for itself. I do believe ithat our faith matters in how we live our lives here on earth or we wouldn't be here. You are on this earth still, and so is Emma, because the miracles of God, often denied, kept you here. You don't have to defend that. You only have to be reassured by it as you walk minute by minute, taking care to live as much as you can and to be as compassionate as you can to those who question. You may be the one that God uses through these hard, difficult circumstances of your life right now, to shine the Light where He has never been seen before. You remain in my prayers... All I can say is you are doing the right thing in speaking the truth when it seems right, when the words come and focusing answers directly on the Word of God. The rest of the time, let your life speak for itself. I do believe ithat our faith matters in how we live our lives here on earth or we wouldn’t be here. You are on this earth still, and so is Emma, because the miracles of God, often denied, kept you here. You don’t have to defend that. You only have to be reassured by it as you walk minute by minute, taking care to live as much as you can and to be as compassionate as you can to those who question. You may be the one that God uses through these hard, difficult circumstances of your life right now, to shine the Light where He has never been seen before. You remain in my prayers…

]]> By: annaliza http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19572 annaliza Mon, 22 Oct 2007 19:03:07 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19572 your response to opposition is inspiration and a perfect example. surely our God is greater than our biggest and smallest problems! praise be Your Name Jehova Rafa for your servant Heather... your response to opposition is inspiration and a perfect example. surely our God is greater than our biggest and smallest problems!

praise be Your Name Jehova Rafa for your servant Heather…

]]> By: Deena @ Wholly Devoted http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19571 Deena @ Wholly Devoted Mon, 22 Oct 2007 18:58:48 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19571 The bottom line is our faith in God is more about the next life than this life...my life here may be filled with pain and suffering, but my life promised to me in Him makes it all a blink of an eye, and so worth it...For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all, I Corinthians 4:17. If we allow our troubles, trials and struggles to drive us into His arms, then He will surround us with His love, either through friends and family, or through complete strangers. When you know Christ as your Savior and God is your Father, you are never, ever truly alone. What we see with our eyes can be deceiving. It's what God shows us through our hearts and our faith that is truth. However, as it is written: "No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him" I Corinthians 2:9 Anonymous, I'm glad you believe in a god...but until you meet the One True God...the one Heather speaks so eloquently of...you will never know true peace. Get a Bible, and read it with an open heart and an open mind... The bottom line is our faith in God is more about the next life than this life…my life here may be filled with pain and suffering, but my life promised to me in Him makes it all a blink of an eye, and so worth it…For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all, I Corinthians 4:17.

If we allow our troubles, trials and struggles to drive us into His arms, then He will surround us with His love, either through friends and family, or through complete strangers.

When you know Christ as your Savior and God is your Father, you are never, ever truly alone. What we see with our eyes can be deceiving. It’s what God shows us through our hearts and our faith that is truth. However, as it is written:
“No eye has seen,
no ear has heard,
no mind has conceived
what God has prepared for those who love him” I Corinthians 2:9

Anonymous, I’m glad you believe in a god…but until you meet the One True God…the one Heather speaks so eloquently of…you will never know true peace. Get a Bible, and read it with an open heart and an open mind…

]]> By: beth http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19569 beth Mon, 22 Oct 2007 18:02:44 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19569 my husband had stage 4 sinus ca. it's been 5 years and he is fully recovered. he has kidney failure (genetic) and has been on dialysis for 2 yrs and is doing very well. now they are unsure if he can have a kidney transplant because of related heart problems. we had one son die at 3 days old due to a non genetic heart defect (after surgery). the next year we had twins , one who required heart surg, he had a stroke after the successful surg. he has minimal affects and is doing great at 17! satan's lies can sap your strength when you need it the most. after everything, God's faithfulness and blessing and endless love covers all. i can honestly say , i wouldn't want to repeat these events, but i CAN AND DO,count it all joy. i have changed and grown so much in 17 years ( my husband also). I SINCERELY WOULDN'T CHANGE ANYTHING. we continue to thank God for holding onto us and not letting our own discouragement affect our faith. He will carry you through and pursue you if He needs to, to comfort you. hold tight to His promises. don't be fooled He is right next to you offering His endless blessings and love. my husband had stage 4 sinus ca. it’s been 5 years and he is fully recovered. he has kidney failure (genetic) and has been on dialysis for 2 yrs and is doing very well. now they are unsure if he can have a kidney transplant because of related heart problems.
we had one son die at 3 days old due to a non genetic heart defect (after surgery). the next year we had twins , one who required heart surg, he had a stroke after the successful surg. he has minimal affects and is doing great at 17!
satan’s lies can sap your strength when you need it the most. after everything, God’s faithfulness and blessing and endless love covers all. i can honestly say , i wouldn’t want to repeat these events, but i CAN AND DO,count it all joy. i have changed and grown so much in 17 years ( my husband also). I SINCERELY WOULDN’T CHANGE ANYTHING. we continue to thank God for holding onto us and not letting our own discouragement affect our faith. He will carry you through and pursue you if He needs to, to comfort you. hold tight to His promises. don’t be fooled He is right next to you offering His endless blessings and love.

]]> By: Jennifer F. http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19564 Jennifer F. Mon, 22 Oct 2007 17:15:46 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19564 Heather - I am a former atheist. I'm so sorry to hear about these comments on your site -- as you say, even if someone did disagree with you, why bother to bring you down? I can't speak for your anonymous commentor, but can only offer what I know based on my experience: to be an atheist is to be in pain. It's usually not not on the surface where it bothers you all the time, but every atheist I know (and certainly I fell into this category) lives with a certain uneasiness deep down inside, an inability to find true peace. A common coping mechanism is to embrace cynicism and, eventually, bitterness. Your commentor is undoubtedly in a place of hurt and anger. As a person who's been there, I hope that you and your other readers can keep this person in your prayers, and pray that he or she may one day experience the peace of Christ. I was quite happy and content as an atheist, but now that I know God, when I look back on my life it seems like a living hell in comparison. I feel so bad for others who experience that. Anyway, I just wanted to offer those thoughts in case it's helpful. As always, you are in my prayers! Heather – I am a former atheist. I’m so sorry to hear about these comments on your site — as you say, even if someone did disagree with you, why bother to bring you down?

I can’t speak for your anonymous commentor, but can only offer what I know based on my experience: to be an atheist is to be in pain. It’s usually not not on the surface where it bothers you all the time, but every atheist I know (and certainly I fell into this category) lives with a certain uneasiness deep down inside, an inability to find true peace. A common coping mechanism is to embrace cynicism and, eventually, bitterness.

Your commentor is undoubtedly in a place of hurt and anger. As a person who’s been there, I hope that you and your other readers can keep this person in your prayers, and pray that he or she may one day experience the peace of Christ. I was quite happy and content as an atheist, but now that I know God, when I look back on my life it seems like a living hell in comparison. I feel so bad for others who experience that.

Anyway, I just wanted to offer those thoughts in case it’s helpful. As always, you are in my prayers!

]]> By: Teresa from SC http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19563 Teresa from SC Mon, 22 Oct 2007 17:14:40 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19563 Sending you love today Heather Sending you love today Heather

]]> By: Tina http://especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/comment-page-1/#comment-19555 Tina Mon, 22 Oct 2007 14:59:52 +0000 http://www.especiallyheather.com/2007/10/21/when-to-say-when/#comment-19555 Heather, I so think that you should have your comments moderated, and have someone in your family approve/block them before you read them. This is a time to have your arms lifted up by all those who love you so. Nothing else. Heather,

I so think that you should have your comments moderated, and have someone in your family approve/block them before you read them. This is a time to have your arms lifted up by all those who love you so. Nothing else.

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