I came here to write a post on my political comment about Senator Kennedy, but then I thought about that for a bit. I do not need to defend myself, this is my blog. I am sorry that a few of you were offended by my comment to the Senator: “I may not agree with you (Senator Kennedy) on politics, but we can both agree that brain cancer and its treatments are grueling and we must all pull together for each other and fight this monster” but I stand behind it, and given the opportunity I would say it directly to him.
I then thought about what this blog brings me. I made a promise to myself when I started writing about my cancer journey that the second it caused me more stress than joy, I would stop as abruptly as I started. I am starting my 10th chemo cycle tonight, and where I am? Sitting here trying to formulate a post that doesn’t offend anyone… That speaks volumes.
I am a Republican. (Yet I don’t agree with everything President Bush has done or said either) I need not delve any further into my political leanings than that. I made one comment… a very genuine comment of concern and hope for a fellow brain cancer patient. I have defended that until I am blue in the face, and I will not defend it again.
But more importantly than my political stance, I am a Christian. I believe in the inerrant Word of God, and I will defend that tooth and nail. If the bible is against it, I am against it. Whether that be homosexuality, abortion, or wearing silver eyeliner on the second Sunday of the month. End of story.
So if I have disappointed you, that wasn’t my intention. But I am more concerned about disappointing my Savior, and until He convicts me I stand by what I said (which honestly, wasn’t much).
Now, I am off to take my chemo…
I have followed your blog for a long time, Heather, and I hail you for your faith and strength during all that you have been through. I know that you would never wish this on anyone and I hope that the Kennedys WILL find your blog. Perhaps some of his politics will change after reading it. God bless you and your family.
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**heavy roll of the eyes** to anyone who chooses to spend their time picking political fights with (or being just plain nasty to) this daughter of God (and a good friend of mine) who has done nothing other than be her honest self and share both struggle and joy through a life-altering illness…in her own personal blog space…!
Keep caring about people who reach out to you here, but please don’t let them hurt you!
((Hugs)) Love you, dear friend.
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I appreciate your honesty. You know what? You can’t please the whole world, and sometimes the internet feels like the whole world. Jesus didn’t try to please everyone, and I am glad you’re not trying to either. All I gathered from your post was, “Senator Kennedy, I am supporting you in your cancer fight even though we disagree on many important issues.” This is offensive? I saw it as loving and encouraging.
Hang in there. You already said it: They (people who choose to read your post) are NOT the ones to whom you answer. HE is. And HIS burden is light, so try to lay down the stress of those who want to fuss over the kind and honest remark you made.
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I think you expressed yourself perfectly. I pray that the chemo is very effective and that healing continues. I also pray that you outlive those statistics 20 fold!
Senator Kennedy is not exactly someone I’d approach to say hello should the opportunity present itself. I disagree with nearly everything he espouses. Yet I wouldn’t wish him ill, I’ve prayed for him in this awful situation, and hope he fairs well. I cannot imagine the sort of person who wouldn’t do the same. Just ignore the negatives as best you can; they’re nothing more than stones tossed at you by the forces of evil to try to distract you from the goal. God bless you.
There was nothing wrong with your comment. Anyone who says otherwise is TRYING to be offended about something.
Don’t stress over negative people.
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Heather, your handling of the situation is as graceful as your original post.
I find it extremely ironic that people who don’t think you should disagree with Senator Kennedy have NO problem at all disagreeing with you.
Don’t change a thing, sister. You’re an inspiration.
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AMEN SISTER! How anybody could have been offended by that, I will never comprehend. You just don’t stress yourself about it. That is just juvenile of them. Will be praying for you as you begin this next round. Hang in there!
Dear Heather,
Sheesh! What is wrong with people? You’re totally right, you do NOT need to defend yourself (: I read your post about Sen. Kennedy the other day and thought it was very kind, from one cancer survivor to another just beginning his journey. Don’t give any of those other comments a second thought. Not worth your time or energy. I’m praying for a good round of chemo for you too! Seriously, don’t sweat the small stuff like insignificant comments by others causing trouble. Just let it roll right off you! Happy thoughts and prayers are coming your way from me! God Bless!
Molly (:
I thought your post on Senator Kennedy was right on! When I first heard of his diagnosis I immediately thought of you. It makes me mad that people make you defend what you say. This is YOUR blog, these are YOUR thoughts, these are YOUR feelings and these are YOUR convictions. Never once have I read where you have been anything but gracious to other points of view. I don’t agree with Sen. Kennedy on hardly anything, but I pray that if he doesn’t know the Savior that he will before death comes to him.
I’m so sorry that people are so mean and judgemental towards you!
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You are so awesome! Seriously! Love in Him!
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I didn’t see anything wrong with what you wrote , Heather. And I’m sorry all the criticism is causing you additional stress. It is getting so people can’t say anything these days without someone being offended. Sometimes, I think people just want to argue. And we know that confusion is certainly not from God! Bless you, sweet Heather, and I pray you will get through the treatments without bad side effects. And I pray God will give you His peace that passes all understanding, in Jesus name.
In His Love,
Cathy
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I didn’t read the comments of the post in question, but I can’t fathom what people would disagree with in your statement. The Bible tells us not to rejoice in the bad things that happen to our enemies, and though I don’t know that I would define Ted Kennedy as an “enemy” per se, though I am on different sides of the political fence from him, I certainly wouldn’t wish cancer on him or anyone else.
You would think people would realize you have enough to deal with without adding to your stress!
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I am shocked at the fall out from a such a sincere heartfelt statement… I must be more naive than I think because it makes no sense to me and it makes my heart ache for you.
The Father sees your heart…those who don’t can answer to Him.
I’m so sorry, Heather.
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So sorry for what you are going through. This is your blog, you say whatever you want. I’m so glad things are going well with you.
JoAnn
:whistle: Hey Sweet Heather,
Gosh, people can be so touchy and ready to pounce!! I love you Heather and the only thing I saw in your post was compassion, am I missing something here:)? Just kidding, it really doesn’t matter and I don’t think you invited a political debate. This is your blog. I hope this 10th round of chemo is kind to you and you are feeling better this time around. I am praying for you and want you to know you owe no one an apology, nor do you have to be cautious when sharing your heart here. I love you just the way you are and hope you don’t change to please others. I hope you had a restful weekend with your family too. I love you girl.
Love, Laurie in Ca. :heart: :wub:
I have been following your blog for a while and whilst I don’t usually comment, I always go away feeling refreshed and renewed.
Blogging’s greatest strength is that it allows a way through which to share your heart and mind. Blogging’s greatest weakness is that it allows a way to share your heart and mind.
Not every one is going to agree with you and you are certainly not going to agree with everyone either.
To have made a statement of support for the Kennedy family *without* making your own “political” stance clear would have been out of character…from what little I know of you
There are issues for which the Kennedy’s stand that you would oppose vehemently – and you would not want to give the impression otherwise. The fact that you don’t agree with his politics is neither here nor there…you are concerned for him as a fellow human being. Your original post was right on the money! I hope Sen. Kennedy finds the post, but more than that I hope he also finds God.
Heather, you have NOTHING for which to either defend or apologize. Your comment was in no way political. In fact, it was the opposite. It was coming from a heart of compassion and understanding. I can’t imagine what would have upset anyone.
Please don’t allow this kind of nonsense to bother you. It’s not worth your time and energy, especially now. Some people have nothing better to do than to stir up trouble.
You have always been straightforward and transparent here. I hope that you continue to do so and do not allow foolish people to intimidate you into being anyone other than yourself. I think you are pretty great!
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Amen sister! I cannot say it any better than these friends before me, but I still wanted to chime in. And Heather, I do believe I’m going to remember how you phrased it, don’t know why I’ve never heard or thought of it exactly that way before–if the bible is against it, I am against it. Thank.You! xo
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I don’t know why people are so mean—Christians at that. I saw nothing wrong with your post and I hope you don’t shut your whole blog down because of a few getting their feathers ruffled over something petty. It’s your blog, so you can always exercise that little “moderating comments” option to keep the negative people away. You are so encouraging to so many. I’d hate to see that end. But, you have to do what is best for you and certainly, less stressful. Goodness, you have plenty else to deal with for sure!
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Good grief! You cannot win for losing.
I liked your last post, but that is not unusual.
Take care and God Bless!
Kay
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This is just another example of your graciousness towards others! You always handle this type of thing metter than I would! I don’t find anything offensive in your statement about Ted Kennedy whatsoever! Every one of these previous comments have said the same thing, you are being true to who you are; A caring, compassionate follower of our Lord. Jesus cared about those who were involved in the very act of sin or had different viewpoints than Him. Our Pastor says that Jesus never drew LINES in the sand, only circles so He could include people. Some folks get their panties in a wad over the slightest of things. You just let it roll right off of your back. For every one negative commenter you have literally thousands of us out here that totally get your heart!
Hugs,
Connie
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Whoa, now 3 times qualifying your support for Senator Kennedy, and phrasing in terms of politics and a judgmental tone regarding your literal belief in the bible, its clear somehow you think people who think differently are not quite entitled to the same well wishes as those with whom you agree — otherwise why would it even be worth mentioning? . It makes me feel kind of sick to my stomach. I wish you the best Heather, BUT this is my last visit to this blog, I no longer feel welcome .
Good Morning Heather !
You are Loved !
So sorry you felt you had to defend your personal opinion. I love your blog because of your open and honest style. Please don’t change a thing. Go fight that cancer and don’t try to please everyone.
Go girl!
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@Clara : I am sorry you feel that way and wish you well on your journey. Thanks for your support and concern up until now.
-H
Dearest Heather,
I read your post, sister let me tell you that there was NOT ONE THING wrong with anything that you said to or about the Senator. It’s craziness. In that same vein, perhaps that is why Believers have such a difficult time getting along with each other…oops, you’re a “Baptist” can’t fellowship with you! Ridiculous. I have no doubt that this is something that breaks our Father’s heart. I thought that what you said “to” the Senator was sincere and heartfelt…so dear one, you just keep on letting Jesus ooze out of ya! Nevermind the naysayers. I hope the Senator does read your blog one day…who knows? Maybe that is the way God will draw him to Himself? What would happen if you didn’t reach out because you “didn’t agree with him politically”…hmmm….
God bless you and your day and your sweet family!
Love and prayers! Kari
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I’ve been reading your blog for a long time, but I haven’t felt the need to post in quite awhile. I feel the need now.
YOU GO GIRL.
Heather, the one thing that keeps me coming back to your blog is your raw honesty. I commend you for being so transparent. It is so nice to hear a voice that is so open about their life experience. You are a survivor! You go girl! :silly:
You go girl!! Pleasing our Lord is the ONLY thing that matters! Only 2 things stand for eternity and that is God’s words ( the Bible) and the souls of men. I for one am glad you do not try to make this a blog that is not offensive. Christ is offensive to those who aren’t believers. Praying for you.
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Dear Heather,
OK, I know I already posted last night but I woke up this morning feeling so upset for you! I really hope you can see those nasty comments for what they truly were, nasty and meant to upset you. You don’t need that, especially not from others claiming to be Christians! Augh, I just feel so irritated for you. Focus on getting better and don’t let those people’s negativity tarnish your outlook!! You keep your chin up Heather. Do not let them disturb your attitude. Oh, I’m just so irate. Don’t people have enough problems in this life without creating more for a wonderful, sweet, kind and compassionate woman (yes I’m talking about you!) who is battling cancer?? As my 5 year old would say, those people are “yucky”! Have a wonderful day Heather, I’m praying for an easy round of chemo! Hug those little kids of yours and forget about these other people trying to hurt you. There, now I feel better! God Bless!! :heart:
Molly (:
Good for you! You have every right to say what you believe and stand by it. As someone with different political views than you (I’m a left leaning independent and being from MA I voted for Kennedy) I did not take exception to you saying what you said, that is what is great about this country, we can say and believe in whatever we want! Stick to your guns sister! :biggrin:
You go girl!!! You are awesome!
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:whistle: :wub: Heather…I was going to say “ditto” to all the above posts until I neared the ending…about a dozen back. So now I have to just say that your original comment on the Senator and his situation was very cordial and did not seem to step on anyone’s political toes…yet as always one can never please everyone but also we know that it is said never talk about religion, politics, or S-E-X(well I don’t remember the last one ..cause it certainly can’t be that, everyone talks about that(lol) :wassat: :silly: :blush:
…and as you say THIS IS YOUR BLOG!!!
We, your supporters or friends, appreciate you for YOUR HONESTY and BEING REAL! :angel: This does not change based on what you say that we may or may not agree with!!! But you are 100% right in not taking stress from this…it was to bless others and glorify God working in YOU! I had this problem with comments on Mother’s Day and I, too, just wanted to quit & then I thought…why? I’m not writing this to please people. It
just becomes another “thorn in the side”. Why should we let one or two or any defeat us!!! Cancer CAN’T and this SHOULD NOT stop YOU from accomplishing ALL GOD wants from YOU, shared, spilled out for others…I was wishing I could just “bleep”
those comments…I kinda did I deleted the post and redid it!!!
I glad to see that you say “I am a Christian. I believe in the inerrant Word of God, and I will defend that tooth and nail”
But I am more concerned about disappointing my Savior, and until He convicts me I stand by what I said (which honestly, wasn’t much).” Right ON!!!
You need not DEFEND what you say or share against any person
visiting here. Freedom is still freedom both for YOU :heart: and sadly for controversial commentors:pinch: :ninja: Take heart!
Stay focused on getting well! Don’t close up shop! Just take a break once and awhile. Do not apologize for the sake of negative comments…Do not despair, do not stress, do not give up…Be strong and courageous!
I pray for you & this chemo treatment round that you will have the strength and the side effects will be nile…Hoping for a peace that passes all understanding…it’s sad when someone else is in a difficult situation that “vultures prey” not pray…it’s too bad it took this with Senator Kennedy to finally get ACTION in the House or Senate for cancer & research! May God be with you!
I hope that Senator Kennedy is able to view your site from the beginning but as someone else said that God would have His way in his life!!! Be blessed and please continue to bless us…
as only you are able…let this go and Let GOD!!!
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You go girl! This IS your blog and you can write whatever you like!
To Clara…don’t let the door hit you in the butt on the way out! What nerve! What is it with people who think Christian’s should be “nicer” than God!? He speaks His mind, and shows emotion when He is upset (read the OT people), and you never even said anything wrong!
Heather – bless you for your honesty, your willingness to share the good, bad, and difficult pieces of your journey on so many levels, but most especially on your Faith! You are right to speak the truth, which you surely do, and yet in a loving and compassionate way when the rare disagreement or concern is raised. If other do not see or perceive it as so, then so be it.
With all that being said, perhaps we (Christians: whether right, left, or apolitical) should all remember that our tolerance for differing opinions and all those around us is a sign of our love and lack of judgment (as we are instructed to act in the Bible), and the grace shown toward us when each of us stumble should also be reflected in how we act and respond to those with whom we do not agree (easy – no; what we are taught – I think so). Just because the world teaches us differently does not mean we need to hold onto that lesson – rather let it fade away!
I think you, Heather, are a great example of that reflection of God’s Love, and hope we who read and comment on your blog will also act in the same gracious and loving way, regardless of our agreement with other’s comments or not. I hope we as Christians do not feel that anyone that is in disagreement with us or “pounce” on our comments / views / and beliefs, should be “pounced” back upon, I believe we are clearly taught in the Bible to react in a loving way, which does not mean to agree, and also not to judge – that is His job and He can and will do that in His perfect way. I agree that the Bible – the Word that became flesh- for our sake, example, and salvation -is the final guide and is worth defending with all our strength, in love, until this earthly journey is over. We also need not defend It or our belief in It, I think He is far more capable than I am in do so.
So, for Heather and Senator Kennedy – my love and prayers as you fight a common enemy.
And for Clara and others who have expressed concern, along with everyone that may read this, my love and hope for continued growth in your relationship with Jesus, not to change your opinions, only for continued growth in Jesus
And Especially for Heather, my thanks and encouragement to have no worries from the responses to this blog, you reflect God’s perfect Love to the many you encourage daily. Just because some of us do not understand, does not mean He and His Love is not Perfect.
I can’t believe I’ve never heard of that rule about silver eyeliner on the 2nd Sunday. Ohmygosh am I going to hell!?!? teehee
You are absolutely right – your space, no need to defend your position. Sorry to read that others are using your space as a way to attack you. Really? They don’t have to read.
Thank you for being true to yourself and your faith.
God Bless you and know that I continue to pray for you, Heather.
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This is your home not just your blog and we are guests in your home. I would not be rude or argumentative in your home, we should not be on your blog. We an dis agree onour blogs or choose to say nothing, but we do not have the right to be rude an argumentitive. Shame on us when we are.
As for Senator Kennedy, I hope he comes by as sees the love and prayers here that have crossed political lines. just as the rain falls on us all, cancer does not choose us by political parties.
Heather, you take care of you and forget this nonsense. Let the chemo do its job keep your eyes on Jesus and not on this nonsense.
Because of Jesus, Bobbie
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ummm, yeah. Not sure what about your post would be considered offensive. And I’m glad to see you brush on by it.
Continuing to pray for you.
Blessings,
Karla
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I have never read a statement written to a politician that is LESS offensive! It blows me away that people have to find something to pick at in any thing they read.
You continue in my prayers as you begin your next round of chemo
And always remember — you WILL beat the bell curve — you are guaranteed to live in eternity!
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It saddens me to think that those peeps – who apparently wanted to crawl under your skin – did so, and that you probably lost a bit of sleep last night and felt the need to reclarify today.
Come on people – give the girl a break – you took what she wrote and threw it out of context.
That being said – Rock on sista! As mentioned in other comments – you are an encouragement to all!