Comments on: The New “R” Word… http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/ Its not about the hair... Wed, 16 May 2012 19:46:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Karen http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26403 Karen Mon, 13 Apr 2009 20:11:40 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26403 Thank you for this post! My girls have taken to calling each other the "R" word and I don't know where they got it. No amount of my saying "stop it - that's not nice" changed anything. Last night I sat them down, read them your post and showed them pictures of Emma. It was a very sobering moment for them. They asked a lot of questions about her, we talked about why what they were saying wasn't nice and how it hurt other people and I honestly believe we won't have any more trouble with this issue again. Bless you for being so honest. <abbr><em><abbr>Karens last blog post..<a href="http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/OldPathsMom/678212/" rel="nofollow">Celebrating my spiritual birthday....</a></abbr></abbr></em> Thank you for this post! My girls have taken to calling each other the “R” word and I don’t know where they got it. No amount of my saying “stop it – that’s not nice” changed anything.

Last night I sat them down, read them your post and showed them pictures of Emma. It was a very sobering moment for them. They asked a lot of questions about her, we talked about why what they were saying wasn’t nice and how it hurt other people and I honestly believe we won’t have any more trouble with this issue again.

Bless you for being so honest.

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]]> By: Robin Dodd http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26281 Robin Dodd Thu, 02 Apr 2009 13:22:51 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26281 What a cutie Heather!! I stand with you guys on this.. great post! What a cutie Heather!! I stand with you guys on this.. great post!

]]> By: Grafted Branch@Restoring the Years http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26279 Grafted Branch@Restoring the Years Thu, 02 Apr 2009 03:55:12 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26279 I think it's glorious that God makes people different--all toward the unique plan He has for each person. In fact, the more I read about Isaac's doings, the more I'm awed at the possibility that maybe he was...well...now...what should I say here? I was going to use the word retarded, (and not as a pejorative, but in the strictest dictionary sense of the word). I guess I could say, "simple-minded?" Somehow "respect" doesn't fit. <abbr><em><abbr>Grafted Branch@Restoring the Yearss last blog post..<a href="http://restoringtheyears.blogspot.com/2009/03/land-flowing-with-milk-and-honey.html" rel="nofollow">A Land Flowing with Milk and Honey...</a></abbr></abbr></em> I think it’s glorious that God makes people different–all toward the unique plan He has for each person. In fact, the more I read about Isaac’s doings, the more I’m awed at the possibility that maybe he was…well…now…what should I say here? I was going to use the word retarded, (and not as a pejorative, but in the strictest dictionary sense of the word). I guess I could say, “simple-minded?” Somehow “respect” doesn’t fit.

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]]> By: Krista http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26274 Krista Wed, 01 Apr 2009 11:35:56 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26274 when my son was 2 1/2 he had a extreme speech delay, and a few motor delays that went hand-in-hand with it. around the time we were having him assessed, an older woman at church asked me if he was retarded. (not in a kind way) i wanted to cry and smack her all at the same time. thank you for talking about this. <abbr><em><abbr>Kristas last blog post..<a href="http://www.brianandkrista.com/?p=225" rel="nofollow">Do you ever wonder what your pastor’s wife is thinking?</a></abbr></abbr></em> when my son was 2 1/2 he had a extreme speech delay, and a few motor delays that went hand-in-hand with it. around the time we were having him assessed, an older woman at church asked me if he was retarded. (not in a kind way) i wanted to cry and smack her all at the same time.

thank you for talking about this.

Kristas last blog post..Do you ever wonder what your pastor’s wife is thinking?

]]> By: pendy http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26273 pendy Wed, 01 Apr 2009 01:00:00 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26273 I was a teacher of special needs students for 33 years and have always cringed at the ignorance of people who used that word as a put down. No one's normal should be used as an insult. Ever. <abbr><em><abbr>pendys last blog post..<a href="http://ewbpcb.blogspot.com/2009/03/love-that-baby.html" rel="nofollow">Love That Baby</a></abbr></abbr></em> I was a teacher of special needs students for 33 years and have always cringed at the ignorance of people who used that word as a put down. No one’s normal should be used as an insult. Ever.

pendys last blog post..Love That Baby

]]> By: Our Red House http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26272 Our Red House Wed, 01 Apr 2009 00:10:22 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26272 It's funny, I though you were going to talk about the recession. It goes to show how the media has indoctrinated me! I haven't heard the word 'retard' in years, except in US films. The expression here is 'special needs', and the insult is to call someone a 'spaz' (spastic). These labels are just so cruel and humiliating. Thank you for posting the video. Kate <abbr><em><abbr>Our Red Houses last blog post..<a href="http://ourredhouse.blogspot.com/2009/03/poached-quinces.html" rel="nofollow">The Perils of Poaching Quinces</a></abbr></abbr></em> It’s funny, I though you were going to talk about the recession. It goes to show how the media has indoctrinated me!

I haven’t heard the word ‘retard’ in years, except in US films. The expression here is ‘special needs’, and the insult is to call someone a ‘spaz’ (spastic). These labels are just so cruel and humiliating.

Thank you for posting the video.

Kate

Our Red Houses last blog post..The Perils of Poaching Quinces

]]> By: Especially Heather http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26271 Especially Heather Tue, 31 Mar 2009 21:35:24 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26271 @Anonymous: Yes, she does not metabolize things like we do. She has a mitochondrial disease (Mitochondria are the energy producing cells in our bodies) Hers are all damaged, therefore she burns energy at a higher rate than we do. Also, she is a heart transplant patient, which makes her "failure to thrive". Thanks for your question! @Anonymous:
Yes, she does not metabolize things like we do. She has a mitochondrial disease (Mitochondria are the energy producing cells in our bodies) Hers are all damaged, therefore she burns energy at a higher rate than we do. Also, she is a heart transplant patient, which makes her “failure to thrive”.

Thanks for your question!

]]> By: Tiffany http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26270 Tiffany Tue, 31 Mar 2009 21:33:40 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26270 Thank you so much for telling us about this cause. My grandson has intellectual disabilities and I can't stomach the thought of anyone looking at him in any other way that with love.... I will stand up for this cause with pride! <abbr><em><abbr>Tiffanys last blog post..<a href="http://windowstosoul.blogspot.com/2009/03/buttons-buttons-whos-got-buttons.html" rel="nofollow">buttons buttons, who's got the buttons?</a></abbr></abbr></em> Thank you so much for telling us about this cause. My grandson has intellectual disabilities and I can’t stomach the thought of anyone looking at him in any other way that with love…. I will stand up for this cause with pride!

Tiffanys last blog post..buttons buttons, who’s got the buttons?

]]> By: Laura http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26268 Laura Tue, 31 Mar 2009 20:48:24 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26268 Thank you so much for posting this , my brother is mentally retarded . It just makes me cringe when I hear people use this word in a derogatory manner. My brother is the sweetest , most thoughtful person I have ever met in my 40 years. I cannot imaging my life without him in it! Your Emma is quite beautiful ! I'm glad God gave her to you to protect and watch over ! Thank you so much for posting this , my brother is mentally retarded . It just makes me cringe when I hear people use this word in a derogatory manner. My brother is the sweetest , most thoughtful person I have ever met in my 40 years. I cannot imaging my life without him in it!

Your Emma is quite beautiful ! I’m glad God gave her to you to protect and watch over !

]]> By: Cathy http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26267 Cathy Tue, 31 Mar 2009 20:39:56 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26267 That is great, Heather. She is so precious and adorable. <abbr><em><abbr>Cathys last blog post..<a href="http://melodiesandhymnsongs.blogspot.com/2009/03/fantastic-machine-full-version.html" rel="nofollow">Fantastic Machine Full Version</a></abbr></abbr></em> That is great, Heather. She is so precious and adorable.

Cathys last blog post..Fantastic Machine Full Version

]]> By: Anonymous http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26265 Anonymous Tue, 31 Mar 2009 17:59:59 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26265 Heather, Indeed, the r-word is simply awful. You're daughter is absolutely adorable. However, I must say, this picture of her shows her extremely thin. I am concerned about that. Is it because of her medical treatment? -Anonymous Heather,
Indeed, the r-word is simply awful. You’re daughter is absolutely adorable. However, I must say, this picture of her shows her extremely thin. I am concerned about that. Is it because of her medical treatment?

-Anonymous

]]> By: Teresa http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26262 Teresa Tue, 31 Mar 2009 17:25:28 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26262 The "r" word has "bad" word in our family for quite some time. I love to listen and watch her - she brings so much joy to me. If people want to give her a label the only one she should have is miracle. The “r” word has “bad” word in our family for quite some time. I love to listen and watch her – she brings so much joy to me. If people want to give her a label the only one she should have is miracle.

]]> By: Kristin http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26261 Kristin Tue, 31 Mar 2009 16:31:46 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26261 What a beautiful young lady! I will surely spread the word! <abbr><em><abbr>Kristins last blog post..<a href="http://nk-boysenblog.blogspot.com/2009/03/i-heart-faces-pout.html" rel="nofollow">I Heart Faces, Pout</a></abbr></abbr></em> What a beautiful young lady! I will surely spread the word!

Kristins last blog post..I Heart Faces, Pout

]]> By: Amy http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26260 Amy Tue, 31 Mar 2009 16:09:00 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26260 How about "R"eally perfect, just the way God made me. That's exactly what I see in that picture above! That picture melts my heart... I want to sit on the floor and play with her and those toys! =) How about “R”eally perfect, just the way God made me. That’s exactly what I see in that picture above! That picture melts my heart… I want to sit on the floor and play with her and those toys! =)

]]> By: Sisterlisa http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26259 Sisterlisa Tue, 31 Mar 2009 15:38:29 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26259 Heather, your daughter is beautiful and belovedly created by our Heavenly Father. :O) <abbr><em><abbr>Sisterlisas last blog post..<a href="http://www.agministries.org/2009/03/trivia-or-trivial.html" rel="nofollow">Trivia or Trivial</a></abbr></abbr></em> Heather, your daughter is beautiful and belovedly created by our Heavenly Father. :O)

Sisterlisas last blog post..Trivia or Trivial

]]> By: LeeJo http://especiallyheather.com/2009/03/31/the-new-r-word/comment-page-1/#comment-26258 LeeJo Tue, 31 Mar 2009 14:21:00 +0000 http://especiallyheather.com/?p=1670#comment-26258 LOVE IT! Thank you for this Heather! LOVE IT! Thank you for this Heather!

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