Comments on: Its not about the hair

By: Jill

Jill — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 11:50:27 +0000

Hi Heather
I have read your words a number of times but this is the first day that I read this post about getting rid of your wig.
Thank-you for your honesty about it, it helps me deal with me.
What I really wanted to say even before I read this was how beautiful you are. Yes inside, but I mean outside too. Your avatar is stunning.

By: Heather

Heather — Sun, 24 Apr 2011 13:33:33 +0000

You are beautiful. May God Bless your family. My heart hurts for you. God is Good, all the time. Doesn’t mean he has to play fair. Praise God that He loves you! He will protect your family. I hope you find peace in all of your trials. You are so strong. <

By: Melody

Melody — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 15:11:35 +0000

Oh my word, this is amazing! I am just in awe of what God is doing in you and through your family. I have cried all morning pouring over your blog when I should be packing for our trip to Atlanta. And now I’m considering shaving my head. Okay, not really but I just love how you are daring to be who God is creating you to be. I just love you and I don’t even know you!

By: Sheri Hale

Sheri Hale — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 06:23:51 +0000

Heather…I too, felt like that. I went thru, scratch that, still going thru ovarian cancer. Was diagnosed in Dec. 2007 at the ripe old age of 29…..I lost my hair and wore wigs and bandanas….I would wear them to work (I am a dietician in a retirement center) and felt odd with them on. I felt like I wasn’t being true to myself or giving my friends and coworkers the “real me” that they deserved. My intern told me to trust her, and let her see. I reluctantly took my wig off, and she cried. I was totally freaked out. Tears is not what I had expected. She then hugged me and said that I looked so beautiful and real….and was so glad that I trusted her. From that day forward, I went to work bald! The reactions were not horrific like I had imagined…and I felt sooooo relieved!

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences….I just came upon this blog tonight…and I am a fan!

God bless!!

By: Susan (5 Minutes for Mom)

Susan (5 Minutes for Mom) — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 12:03:48 +0000

Heather, thank you so much for sharing this.

You know what’s kinda interesting… I always assumed you never wore a wig ever. Since you always have had your avator without a wig, I assumed you always felt confident without.

I’m glad to hear you’re doing what is best for you.

All the best!

By: Kristine McGuire

Kristine McGuire — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 04:05:42 +0000

You know, I think you look absolutely gorgeous without the wig. Your strength and beauty shine through your eyes, not your hair follicles.

By: Mari Taylor

Mari Taylor — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 16:52:32 +0000

Well girlie, I like you with or without the wig. Although I think you are funnier and bossier without it. I like the boosy you. She’s a riot! It was a privilege meeting you at She Speaks. I hope our paths cross again in person cause you’re my kind of people!

By: Sarah Martin

Sarah Martin — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 12:26:14 +0000

Hey Lady!
Whew-I need to take care of my pride issues right now after reading that. My issues are body image and my sweet hubby told me yesterday that I need to get over myself and that I am beautiful. Get over myself…who wants to hear that?! Ha! Good thing it was said to me in love by my honey.

When Lisa told me your wig situation at She Speaks, I was stunned. Why? Because it was so right on that it slapped me in the face. You did what you had to do (take off the wig) to be more comfortable and in a better position to hear from God.

Hmmm…now what do I need to do to slap myself and get over myself about my weight issues…hmmmm…

thanks sweet friend!
.-= Sarah Martin´s last blog ..God Whispers =-.

By: Julie From Inmates

Julie From Inmates — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 01:17:48 +0000

I enjoyed this post. It was so raw and so real. I love that. Thanks for sharing your feelings about an intensely personal subject with us. .-= Julie From Inmates´s last blog ..Just Another Manic Monday =-.

By: paige

paige — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 23:40:46 +0000

thank you
thank you for an absolutely amazingly refreshing transparent heart….i love your story. not the part about dealing with cancer, because cancer’s just plain awful, but i love how the lord is using that cancer for his glory.
i love what your son told you…..amazing

you’re beautiful
i’m so glad i stopped by to meet you
& YOU GO GIRL
xo

By: Amber @ Classic Housewife

Amber @ Classic Housewife — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 19:08:09 +0000

I know, I KNOW, that if I ever had to deal with losing my hair, it would be a big issue for me, too. I would struggle with God over my pride for quite some time. Hopefully I would eventually come around to the same point where I told God, “my heart and my hair are yours.” (God may have to thump me in the back of the head a few times to get me to that point though.)
Not that I’m that hung up on my hair, I just know how hard it has been for me to deal with my messed up teeth and how I don’t like to sing anymore because you can see the missing teeth. Clearly,I still have to hand a few more issues to Him.
Beautiful post and I love the look on your old man picture too. Blessings!

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 18:49:26 +0000

Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
You are amazing.
Smiles!
.-= Jennifer´s last blog ..Please pray =-.

By: Heather

Heather — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 18:43:25 +0000

Heather,
For many of the same reasons, I could never bring myself to wear a wig at all during treatment–and I lost everything–eyelashes and brows, the works. I wish I had been brave enough to just let it all hang loose, but I mostly relied on scarves and hats (I was afraid of being cold and of getting my head sunburnt during soccer games!).

Thanks for sharing. It really blessed me!

By: Jen@Balancing Beauty and Bedlam

Jen@Balancing Beauty and Bedlam — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 15:50:49 +0000

I love that picture as well because it brings me right back to that moment when I was mesmerized with your story…HIStory.

love you friend,
Jen

By: emily

emily — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 15:46:51 +0000

So glad to have met you. For so many reasons. And the look on your face with the old man bald spot is priceless.! .-= emily´s last blog ..for the girls =-.

By: Dawn @ My Home Sweet Home

Dawn @ My Home Sweet Home — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 15:41:20 +0000

I am so glad to have met you at She Speaks. You’re a beautiful person, and it has nothing to do with your hair.
.-= Dawn @ My Home Sweet Home´s last blog ..9 Days of NAPP Day 9: LIVE from Photoshop World! =-.

By: A Maui Blog

A Maui Blog — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 14:25:21 +0000

Thank you for sharing this. Funny how things that are minini (menial) to some are very important to others. You are right, it’s a matter of the heart.

I am glad you had a blessed time at She Speaks. I wanted so much to go but was not able to. Maybe next year.

May God continue to bless you, encourage you, empower you as you share your life with is on this blog.

Liza
Liza’s Eyeview

By: Especially Heather

Especially Heather — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 14:17:51 +0000

@Pat:
It amazes me that even though cancer patients go through the same things, it effects us totally different. I felt like a cancer patient while wearing my wig!

I can attest to the wig being alot warmer! I live in sunny Florida and was so worried that it would slide lopsided because it was so hot!

@Mary:
It must not have offended me because I have no idea what comment you are talking about! But thank you for the heart felt apology! I must have been in a travel stupor too!

By: Mary @ Giving Up on Perfect

Mary @ Giving Up on Perfect — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 14:03:20 +0000

Oh, Heather. When I met you at SheSpeaks, I made some idiotic comment about your hair. I KNOW better than that, and yet, in my travel stupor, I opened my mouth and promptly inserted my foot. I felt terrible then. But to hear you tell this story about how God was working on you and in you at THAT VERY MOMENT is incredible. (And I’m still sorry I was insensitive!!)

By: Pat

Pat — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 13:37:18 +0000

I find this so interesting. I felt exactly the opposite when I was dealing with cancer treatment–I felt like a cancer patient while bald and a “normal” person when I wore my wig. Of course, I never wore scarves or turbans on my head for the same reason: they just screamed “Cancer patient” to me. My scalp was sure a lot warmer with my wig. I still wear it today when i have impossibly bad hair days. (I was sorely disappointed that my hair did not grow in curly–I still had my baby-fine, stick straight hair.:biggrin: )